Why is it that we really let others’ opinions affect us? It’s like what they say is going to really determine what we will do. Opinions are just someone’s view on what they would or wouldn’t do.
In reflecting on this I can recall vividly conversations I would have with my girlfriends in my 20s on future plans and what I was doing that were totally different to what they were doing and that was ok for me but not ok for them. My choices in life at the time really affected the direction I took, however, a lot of decisions were made due to circumstance and we can all look back and say oh if only I had done this or that. I don’t have these regrets about what I have experienced or accomplished because the underlying force of my inner power always had a core value that I adhered to and that was “being honest and “being responsible for myself”
When everyone was buying their first place and landing more senior positions I wanted to just enjoy life, I was still finding my way. I didn’t have this rush to sign up to a mortgage of 30 years and have to live within these adult social norms. But that did come later when it made sense. I am proud of myself for allowing myself to dream and to live and travel and go against others’ ingrained ideals because the home that I came from did not instill those same ideals. It was ok to make choices and chase my own ideals. At home, I witnessed strong work ethics, responsibility, and commitment to family. So how did I get caught up with someone who did not have the same core values as me? I don’t want to think more deeply about this as we came from two different homes, therefore of cause we are going to have different experiences that form and shape our perceptions of how life should be. Having fun and getting along and enjoying life is not the pre-curser for the ideal partner.
I seem to have these preconceived ideas that people can read my mind and should know what the right thing to do is. Well, life has finally given me enough lessons and I am stepping into my power and releasing this grip of having to belong to someone or something and harnessing and chasing what I truly want. The biggest lesson for me in life is to chase my own dream, focus on what I can do, and do it. Don’t expect that someone is going to have your back or be your backup plan, why should they, partner or not? We make these assumptions because we form unions and we make promises and have expectations (these are just hope). I am not making any assumptions I am attacking the bull by the horns and that is my mission to be true and authentic to myself and not allow anyone to get in my way.
Small is the number of them that see with their own eyes and feel with their own hearts – Albert Einstein
I know I have addressed this many times but as I evolve I will appreciate the lessons, the experiences, and the connections, but in freeing myself from my own thoughts and experiences I must let them go and remind myself of what truly gives me that peace and chase that path that has been carved for me because I allowed myself to get lost and distracted, but many of us do. Chase that dream…..